From ugh to YES - the nuts and bolts of change
An old mentor of mine used to say ‘it’s important to have an open mind, but not so open your brain falls out’.
Hiring someone to support you is a big decision. This page is to answer those crucial questions like ‘how does it work?’ and ‘can I trust you?’ and ‘but what does it DOOOO?’
And of course, you can reach out and ask me anything, any time.
I bet you’ve tried a lot of things already.
Maybe you’ve tackled the practical side of things with spreadsheets, productivity apps, time management gurus and an endless stream of journals (sooooo many journals…)
Maybe you’ve tried all the coaching modalities, like EFT, NLP, CBT, mindset training, thought work, or more.
Maybe you’ve tried medications or supplements (or booze, or caffeine), to tackle energy loss and stress.
Maybe you’ve also explored more ‘woo’ solutions like meditation, prayer, visualisation, scripting, conscious creation, or magic spells.
Or you might simply have kept pushing through, and hoping for things to change, again and again and again.
Some of these are great - for some people, in some situations - and no doubt they may have provided temporary relief, or solved one issue among many.
But there’s still way too much struggle and - if we’re honest - you might even be feeling pissed off with either yourself, or the things you’ve tried, or both.
And maybe you’re even disheartened enough to think about giving up on your own joy.
Please don’t do that.
Here’s what’s happening
The barriers to your thriving are not, and never were, a you-problem.
You are not broken, and you do not have a character flaw that needs fixing.
Almost everything that’s stood in the way has been the result of the toxic systems in which we all grew up - unfettered capitalism, colonialism, and the patriarchy - and the way your beautiful, clever brain has adapted to protect you.
This doesn’t make you a helpless victim! Rather, it gives you new power. Because now you can start solving for the right problems.
The underlying principles of this work:
The system in which we were raised is fucked, and through many channels - ancestral trauma, systemic and institutional ‘rules for life’, familial experiences - it installed patterns in our heads which operate in ways that hold us back, especially when they’re unconscious (after all, you didn’t arrive on the planet with those patterns!)
Those patterns are not our fault, they are not a character flaw, and they are not deliberately trying to harm us. They are acquired, and they can be ‘unacquired’ with the right support - our work is to use every tool available, to liberate ourselves from those old patterns
Human brains are remarkably well-designed for change, when you have the right tools pointed at the right problem AND the nervous system is provided with an absence of rush and tools to help it feel safe in unfamiliar places
Planetary magic can make the whole process a whole lot easier and faster, especially when it’s done through a lens of feminism and Jungian thought
Char Remakus
Retired teacher and school psychologist
“From the very first session Janette offered solutions and tools which made sense, and I could put into operation immediately. They were extremely helpful and rewired my brain as I had no happy thoughts at all [prior to working with her]. She showed me how to have more space and peace in my life.
After working with Janette for three months weekly, I went from deep despair to a woman of joy and peace with a wealth of strategies to practice whenever needed. I am becoming the wise woman crone I so desire to be. With gratitude to Janette!”
The dance of change
The journey of change from where you’re at now, to where you want to go is not a march along hard roads to a set destination.
It’s a dance, one that doesn’t merely accommodate you in all your messy humanity; it CELEBRATES the uniqueness of you at every step along the way. That’s why I don’t have a single modality or protocol: I have a big toolkit with many options, and we craft the journey based on what you need at every point along the way.
Regardless of how you choose to learn from me or work with me, there are specific steps that you’ll encounter in this dance:
Kindness turned inwards - compassion is far more useful than self-criticism, shame or punishment - those things feel like crap and they just don’t work, so we actively decline their siren call
Animal-body safety - change is hard when your nervous system is on edge 24/7 - we’re not going to sedate you into a state of inaction, but we will ensure you have tools to help you honour and soothe your nervous system as she needs
Energy management - change requires extra energy, and chances are you’ve been running on fumes lately - so we’ll ensure you’re getting replenished as you need
Insight - exposes the patterns that have been operating behind the scenes, because they didn’t arrive with you on the planet; they are learned, which that means they can unlearned - but only once we SEE them; insight is gleaned through compassionate curiosity, the perfect antidote to pressure and rigidity
Self-trust in action - build the habit of taking small steps, because human brains see the unfamiliar as dangerous, even when it’s what we crave; building self-trust and the willingness to get a little stretchy helps teach your nervous system that you can be trusted, and that growth can be safe
Identity shifting - your reality is shaped by your brain and its opinion of who you are and what’s possible for you; growth means changing identity, and building that skill is what gives the dance clear direction and makes every step a step closer to the desired destination
Integration - the piece that helps you move through this dance with increasing levels of confidence, reaching places you may not have dreamed possible
My highest intention for you is for you to experience the joy of becoming that unique version of You that you came here to be - exploring and pursuing That Thing you came to planet Earth to do, and living the life that you came here to live, in all its rich, delightful glory.
Here are some of the results my clients have experienced
she won an election against the odds, and went on to help draft legislation that makes a difference for the vulnerable
she purchased a property to be home to the artists’ retreat centre she’d been dreaming of for 14 long years
she wrote the PhD dissertation that had been stuck for 8 years, while ‘magically’ acquiring a far better academic supervisor
she completed her masters and built a thriving business as an art therapist, despite the kinds of adversities that would deter most people
she is growing her unique wellness business via a truly accessible resource, and is now revolutionising health options for all
she launched a brand new business and reached ‘delightfully booked out’ status within three months
If this makes sense and you’re curious to experience my style…
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This demonstrates everything I’ve said above, and helps you get on board with this idea that lack of joy is not your fault. AND it provide an antidote that is deceptively potent, easy to implement, almost entirely effortless, and (bonus!) fun to do.
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