How it works
Let’s talk nuts and bolts
It’s not like you haven’t tried really damn hard to create your flourishing life; to figure out your most rewarding purpose, to figure out how to fulfil it.
Maybe you’ve tackled the practical side of things with spreadsheets, lists of pros and cons, productivity apps, time management gurus or an endless stream of journalling experiments.
Maybe you’ve tried coaching or therapy through affirmations, EFT, NLP, CBT, mindset training or thought work.
Maybe you’ve tried medications or supplements (or booze, or caffeine) to tackle energy loss and stress.
Maybe you’ve also explored more ‘woo’ solutions like meditation, prayer, visualisation, scripting, conscious creation, or magic spells.
Or you might simply have kept pushing through, and hoping for things to change, again and again and again.
Some of these are great, for some people, in some situations - and no doubt they may have provided temporary relief, or solved one issue among many.
But you’re not feeling the ease of ‘flourishing’ yet, and probably - if we’re honest - you’re feeling pissed off with either yourself or the things you’ve tried (or both).
And maybe you’re even disheartened enough to think about giving up on flourishing altogether. Please don’t do that.
Here’s why so many of those solutions have not been able to create permanent change for you.
It’s because the underlying barriers to flourishing are not, and never were, a you-problem.
You are not broken, and you do not have a character flaw that needs fixing.
Almost everything that’s stood in the way has been the result of the toxic systems in which we all grew up: unfettered capitalism, colonialism, and the patriarchy.
Those things live in the world around us AND they live inside your head (and mine), causing havoc, creating habits that hinder your ability to follow your dreams, and literally blocking your access to flourishing.
This doesn’t make you a helpless victim, even though it might feel that way - goddess knows, those old toxic systems and those who benefit from them would LOVE for you to believe that, so don’t fall for this bullshit!
This is the doorway to breaking free of what has held you back, because you’ll be solving the right problem at last - disrupting and dismantling the toxic tangles left behind by those systems, once and for all.
This is the missing piece that gives you back the power to create that flourishing life you’ve been dreaming about.
The underlying principles of this work:
We all grew up in multiple fucked-up systems of oppression - systems which installed a bunch of toxic BS in our heads, wiring our brains with unconscious programming that keeps us small, quiet and compliant
That shit is not your fault, and it’s not a character flaw but (enraging as it might be) it is now your job to clean up the mess, to liberate yourself from it - in other words, to rewire your own brain
Human brains are exquisitely designed for change, when you have the right tools pointed in the right direction
Change is far easier when you recruit the brilliance of planetary magic
The dance of change
The journey of change from where you’re at now, to where you want to go, is a dance, a wandering, an exploration through fields of infinite possibility, rather than a rigid march along hard roads to a set destination.
The dancing and the wandering and the exploring all move you along your path faster and more effectively than the in-step march we’ve all grown up with.
But there is no ‘one-size-fits-all’ set of steps in a formula or a protocol, because we need to not merely accommodate, but CELEBRATE the uniqueness of you.
There are, however, some key ingredients that will be in the mix.
Kindness turned inwards. Our culture teaches that the path to improvement is criticism, shame and hard work. It’s wrong. The most effective backdrop for change and growth is compassion, and that is going to be a focus from the very beginning when you complete your intake form. The mean girls and brain weasels will want you to come play with them, and we’re going to give you ways to decline their invitations.
Animal-body safety. You need to accommodate the current state of your animal body - is your nervous system fried, jangled, overwhelmed? In this space, we will help your animal body feel safer, so she can support the dance of change you’ll be undertaking. The focus of this piece is comfort and consolation - think sensory delight rather than hitting the gym. You're going to enjoy this piece - and so is your body.
Energy management. Change takes energy - including both change imposed upon you, and change you are choosing on purpose. If your tanks are already low, change can feel impossible, because you’re already tapped out just from basic functioning. Our focus here will be twofold: we’ll boost your energy intake, and reduce energy leaks, so you end up with more energy to play with. This piece is going to be easier and more delightful than you might think, and we’ll go at a pace you can handle.
Curiosity. Our brains are designed to leap straight to assumption. That’s useful for stopping us stepping out into moving traffic or sticking our hand in a flame. But when it comes to stepping out of old ways and into new, unconscious assumptions can trip us up. The antidote is light-hearted, compassionate curiosity - the art of ‘I wonder…?’ rather than ‘I must’.
Trust. Embracing your own personal power means trusting yourself - trusting yourself to know what you want, to take aligned action, and to be open to receiving the good stuff. We’ll explode and dissolve the unconscious programming which has hampered self-trust in the past. And we’ll build the foundations for increased and skillful self-trust, so you become the version of you who is good at knowing what she wants, taking aligned action, and receiving her good.
Joy. Not the enforced joy of toxic positivity, and not the gaslit joy of denying your emotions - rather, the deep joy of fully accepting all of yourself (including all the pieces you’ve previously avoided or hated or categorised as ‘wrong’ or ‘broken’), the resonant joy of exploring and pursuing That Thing you came to planet Earth to do, and the deliberate, defiant joy that can be a force for political change in the world if you know how to wield it.
These ingredients work hand in hand, in a beautiful synergistic dance - not a rigid step by step linear process.
Finding the right mix for you creates the best combination for the dance of change to happen at a pace your nervous system can tolerate, which in turn means you’ll get swifter results than you might currently think possible.
Char Remakus
Retired teacher and school psychologist
“From the very first session Janette offered solutions and tools which made sense, and I could put into operation immediately. They were extremely helpful and rewired my brain as I had no happy thoughts at all. She showed me how to have more space and peace in my life.
I emerged slowly with her help from a very discouraged person to one of renewed confidence and the ability to use what she taught in a constructive manner.
I tried therapy with a counselor before and that left me more distraught than when I began therapy. I needed a female life coach who could make me feel better with the first session.
If you are timid, I suggest you give Janette a try. She immediately connects with you in a warm and engaging manner and is very well versed in her ability to get to the root of the problem and suggest strategies. She has a wealth of strategies and the science to back them. After working with Janette for three months weekly, I went from deep despair to a woman of joy and peace with a wealth of strategies to practice whenever needed. I am becoming the wise woman crone I so desire to be. With gratitude to Janette!”
Here are some of the results my clients have created
she won an election against the odds, and went on to help draft legislation that makes a difference for the vulnerable
she purchased a property to be home to the artists’ retreat centre she’d been dreaming of for 14 long years
she wrote the PhD dissertation that had been stuck for 8 years, while ‘magically’ acquiring a far better academic supervisor
she completed her masters and built a thriving business as an art therapist, despite the kinds of adversities that would deter most people
she is growing her unique wellness business via a truly accessible resource, and is now revolutionising health options for all
she launched a brand new business and reached ‘delightfully booked out’ status within three months
If this makes sense to you, and if it sounds like something you’d love to explore more …
… please help yourself to my free resource designed to dismantle and dissolve that old devil Impostor Syndrome.
The solution I provide here uses a powerful brain science technique and leans on the beautiful support of planetary ally Saturn, sometimes known as the ‘curator of our life mission’.
I think you’re gonna love it!
And if you’re still on the fence, you might be caught up in a very common myth - click here to read more about what could be at play.